Earlier this year, singer Muma Gee and Nollywood actor Prince Eke‘s marriage broke up with Eke accusing Muma Gee of abadoning her children and running off to Abuja with “God knows who”.
Muma Gee, in response, said she was a dedicated full time housewife for 6 years, adding that she also suffered domestic violence during that period.
“For me to have taken a break (from entertainment) for six years, that’s enough to tell anyone I was really dedicated. I gave the marriage all my life, all my time, but if the persons involved are restless a bit, you can’t be in control,” she had said.
Muma Gee, opening up for the first time on what transpired spoke to PUNCH in an exclusive interview. She said:
“It is exactly one year ago that I separated from my ex- husband. But then, he gave the impression that the issue happened in December 2016. I put in my best as an African woman to ensure the marriage lasted. Because of his antecedent, I had almost called off my wedding. I had already done the traditional marriage. The sign that I saw then would have made me to call it off. I didn’t go ahead to do a court wedding after the church wedding. This is just the singular reason.
I saw what was coming. But I tried for six years to make it work. I gave up my career; I gave up all I had built over the years to become a full time housewife. It is enough sacrifice for somebody to say thank you. If I weren’t a good, submissive housewife, you would have long heard the story. It’s quite unfortunate that he decided to carry out a campaign of calumny against such a person that gave up her career just to build a home with him in the sight of man and God. If knees could peel based on prayers, mine would have had sores because I prayed ceaselessly for my marriage to work. I thank God I am not barren. God gave me three kids,” she said
On accusation that she abandoned her 3 children
Why would anybody think that after carrying a baby in my womb, I would leave a two-month old baby and run away? A woman who just had a baby, scientifically, has not healed enough to mess around. If you just have a baby and your pocket money has run out and nobody is providing for you, then you have to do what you can with your talent in order for you not to starve.
With the pain of childbirth, when he could not provide for me and the children during the early months of nursing, I had to get up and go for a show that was booked for me by an events company. I just wanted to put food on my table for my children. My mother was there, I had two other helps. It was a one day show. I went and I came back. But the person who said I abandoned the baby had left us two months earlier! Yes, he had left the house like six times before the last one. The last one, I said I had tried. I told God to let His will be done.
On allegations of infidelity by Prince Eke
He said I was seen with men, who are the men? Where is the proof? I am a high chief. Why would you come out and lie against somebody who has been kind to you? There is nemesis for all of this. I knew there was a victim he wanted to impress. Last May, I got a call from a woman who told me that she and my ex were supposed to get married but he had run away to the US.
The lady said she was sorry that she got involved with him. That was not the first time but the fourth time somebody who was married to me would propose to four different women during my marriage. Come on! You don’t know half of what I have gone through. I only leave it to God.
When I had my twins, a woman based in America called Gina sent me a friend request on Facebook and I accepted. Then she sent me her naked pictures and my ex in bed. My ex had proposed to this same woman on a Valentine’s Day and April of that year, I was delivered of a set of twins and the pictures went viral.
This lady ran mad and looked for me on FB. The street I live in Port Harcourt is named after me. This woman told me that a girl on that street gave birth to a child for my husband. She sent me the picture of the baby. I had heard that he had slept with most of the actresses in Nollywood especially the up and coming ones. But I didn’t care. I wanted to keep my home.
I had been in pains all through the years I was married. He had an affair with the DCO of the police station in the area we lived in Port Harcourt. Two of them used to wear the same attire to attend police functions. Everybody felt the policewoman was the wife of my ex. This DCO is even a married woman.
There was a day he came home and said he was done with our marriage. He went to the drawer where we kept the wedding certificate and he tore it to pieces. I still have the pieces packed in a nylon bag. He and this police woman planned to take my kids from me. This was April 2015. He packed my kids’ clothes into a box and he and the woman took my kids to the motherless babies’ home.
Later in the evening, I got a call from the orphanage saying they needed my approval for them to accept my kids at the motherless babies’ home. I screamed! Later on, a policeman brought my kids back home. Just recently, another woman called me that she had spent $7000 dollars on my ex. She saw my children’s picture on my ex’s DP and she went mad. I told her that I wished her luck.
She also spoke about Eke’s kidnap, adding that he was diabolical before he was kidnapped. She said he gave his life to Christ after he was released.
“He was kidnapped in December 2015. I know how I fought and raised money to pull him out. I paid the ransom with my money. My church gave me N100, 000. We had N200,000 left to complete the money. Two of his elder brothers brought N100,000 each. I didn’t sleep again because these brothers kept disturbing me that I must refund this money. I looked for the money and I gave them.
One of his cousins, Chidi Eke, gave us N100,000 and never asked for refund. At the end of the whole thing, I was put through the highest trauma of my life. His brothers conspired with their other relatives and they gathered in their home that I wanted their brother dead. They said I must swear an oath. I was shocked. I told them I was not going to swear. They said while he was with the kidnappers, the kidnappers were calling me and I refused to pick their calls. I told them the secret service ordered me not to pick any call as they were investigating the kidnap.
But then, December 29, they gathered and said I should take the oath. Coincidentally, one of their sisters was getting married that day. I removed my shoes and on bare feet, I told them that God was watching us. I told them I was not picked on the street by their brother. I told them that all of them that tried to humiliate me, may whatever they did to me be accrued to their daughters and sisters. I raised this curse and the man who was holding the things I was supposed to swear with said they should hold on and we would reconvene again.
We never did. My ex eventually became born again after he was released from the kidnappers’ den. He went to church and gave testimony that he was filming in Asaba and he left Asaba for Owerri where he had gone to see a native doctor who had given him a ring. He said he was on his way back to Port Harcourt when the kidnappers accosted him. I used to think he was fetish-free. He told the whole church that God wanted to use the kidnap case to reorder his steps to God. I was dazed! I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. For him to turn around and say that I am fetish, it is amazing,” she said
She also gave details about suffering domestic violence in her marriage:
“I would have still forgiven him as I always forgave him each time he walked out of the marriage and came back after a couple of months. But this last time, he held my neck tightly and said he was going to kill me. I was holding my two-month-old baby. He gave me a dirty slap and the baby was thrown out of my hand and the baby’s head hit the bed. It wasn’t the first time he would grab my neck and torment me.
He had beaten me a couple of times. But the last beating came with, ‘you are finished!’ he said he was done with me. Shortly before I gave birth, I had sold one of my lands. He gave me N100, 000 and said as I was going to the village; I should buy sand and concrete for the house he was building in the village. But I finished the money I got from selling my land on his building in the village.
I loaned him N500, 000 and when trouble started and I needed money to feed the kids, I asked him for the money. That was when he beat me, held my neck and said he was going to kill me and that I was finished. When he released me, I told him he was not God and that I was not finished. He packed out of the house and checked into a hotel.
Once in a while, he would call the house help and tell her to dress the children and he would take them out and then he would send one of his girlfriends to bring back the kids. It was after this incident that I had to look for an agent and I begged her to book shows for me so that hunger would not kill me and my children since he had stopped taking care of us,” she said.
Muma Gee said she had no regrets in putting her carrier on hold, adding that she wanted to shut down her old brand and build a new one, a plan she says she’s currently executing.