A lady was once in a cab with a friend of hers and his girlfriend, when it was time to pay for their cab, the lady brought out the money from her purse and instead of handing it over to the cab driver, she handed it over to her boyfriend first, who then handed it to the cab man
By Bunmi Ajakaiye
Once, acclaimed writer Chimamanda Adichie shared a very interesting story about gender profiling in Nigeria. she was in a car with a male friend waiting to find parking outside an event. After the security man succeeded in finding them parking, she decided to tip him. As she rolled out her window an handed him the cash, the security man proceeded to thank her male companion profusely while totally ignoring her. why? clearly, this man did not think that the money could have come from a woman without the authority of the man. Clearly, being the feminist that she is, the situation left her nonplussed. Weeks after she had shared that story, i read another story that was almost opposite to hers and this time, both situations tied up nicely.
A lady was once in a cab with a friend of hers and his girlfriend, when it was time to pay for their cab, the lady brought out the money from her purse and instead of handing it over to the cab driver directly, she handed it over to her boyfriend first, who then handed it to the cab man. The lady was also taken aback by this action and later on asked another male friend why the woman needed to do that.
The other man explained that the woman was right for doing that; she didn’t want to emasculate him so she let him be “the man” even though the money came from her and she was making far more than him. Apparently women have to tread carefully in a relationship if they make more than their men so as not to emasculate them.
To tie the two situations together, it may appear that the security man has already made the decision on behalf of Chimamanda and her friend to acknowledge the man as the provider. On the flip side, the woman in the cab decided to let her man be the provider even when she was clearly doing the providing.
We already know our men have huge egos so are there subtle moves you have unwillingly made that made it look like you are emasculating your partner? . Do share your opinions on the subject with us